| The Gift That You Are
...is expressed through relationship,
provided by creating authentic connections
Relationship (sharing the gift that you are) takes place at four levels:
1) Every relationship starts at pseudo level. Many GLBT persons reside at this level with some of their relationships due to the fear of people knowing them at a deeper level. You consciously or unconsciously put up walls that don’t empower your relationships. You don’t share the gift that you are.
2) Chaos is when you begin to get real. The 2nd law of Thermodynamics is an opportunity to learn to utilize the pressure that builds, rather than running from it. If you learn to ride the pressure like a wave of energy, you learn how to “mine the gold” as you purify your relationship through the pressure. If you don’t learn to do this, you often exit, run, or stonewall when the pressure begins, and you bury, rather than express, your feelings. You don’t get to experience the “aha” that happens and leads to…
3) Intimacy is the capacity to empty yourself of the need to change the other person. It is the opportunity to experience authentic connection with others. It takes living in undefended love. When you empty yourself, it leads to
4) Genuine authentic relationship is the capacity to be who you are without reservation or fear. You can take a deep breath and know that you can stay there, be comfortable and enjoy the depth. This can’t happen if you don’t know who you are as you hide behind walls you have erected to feel safe (an illusion in and of itself). It is the opportunity to experience another at their core essence.
How do you create this fourth level?
Experience life through giving up attachment to a specific outcome.
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